It solves nothing but when it meets itself, it’s called endlessness and that is freedom. Love gives, it’s giving itself. Love only knows to give but give is not the right word but perhaps the closest.
We all have it, we don’t see it. We think love is supposed to give us something (this is why give is not the right word, it’s attached to our wanting) or make us feel a certain way about ourselves. Or we think we can save someone by loving them. That is a love with a demand that the other changes because otherwise we can’t believe in love. But that’s not love, it’s simply wanting something.
Or we think love is supposed to take us over, capture us and absolve us from ourselves. Love can’t absolve you from yourself. You are love. You are what you seek and you are what you try to run away from.
But you don’t identify with love. You identify with an image you have of yourself. That is why there is so much confusion about love.
Yes, love is giving, not giving as in doing but giving as in being. It’s a total outpouring of your existence towards existence and existence pours itself back into your heart. A total openness to what is.
There is absolutely no suffering in love. All the suffering we believe is attached to love is merely failed expectations, desires not met. Not love. Love has nothing to do with desire. Love is not exclusive. Love is not personal.
The desire to be loved for one’s unique qualities is selfishness. That is wanting to be the only object of love’s universal outpouring. In wanting that you also cut yourself off from love because you yourself are that outporing. You will suffer until you see it.
Love is like the essence of an endless orgasm (I say essence because I’m not talking about pleasure here). You are giving something and getting something. There is no difference between the giving and the getting. It just is. Love is like that. It just is. You can’t need it. It just is. Nothing is made better by it. It just is. We want it because it is what we are. But we misunderstand the wanting.
It is possible to find it because it’s always here, it’s never not around. It’s in you now. Right this moment. It’s just a question of recognizing it. And I know you do. Right this moment I know you recognize it. Stay with that.